Having been at work in Pune on the occasion of Guru Purnima, I was gheraoed by several employees insisting that they touch my feet. It was embarrassing to say the least. I am no guru; I consider myself a life-long shishya . I tried to explain. But they would have none of it.
According to the Merriam-Webster on-line dictionary, a guru is a personal guide, a spiritual teacher especially in the matters of fundamental concern.
What are `matters of fundamental concern’?
If they (matters of fundamental concern) are defined as our attitudes towards life, there is no doubt in my mind that Aarti has been my guru of 29 years and heads the list. Her friends at Arpan are a close second.
Do I sound emphatic? I am.
From her, I have learned about unconditional love – love where there are no strings attached. No expectations, no hidden agendas. Aarti truly loves all. There is no hate in her being. I am in awe.
From her, I have learned about tapa and compassion. No matter how sick she is (and yes, there are times when she has been very sick); she asks about you and your welfare first. There was one occasion when I was particularly low, worried no end about her health. Even though she was burning with fever, she stroked my head and said quietly: “It’s going to be okay.” And it was.
From her, I have learned about ishwarapranidhana. Her private bhajan sessions (she does not like to have anyone in the room) are from the heart.
Am I putting her on a pedestal? Not quite. She still has several support needs that we try hard to meet. Difficulties related to autism often get in the way. Her health is often an issue.
But every day, she reminds me of what is truly important in life. And for that she continues to be my teacher.
Sushama